masculinity - Self Design Recovery

Mature and Authentic Masculinity Is Not Machismo

08/26/202307/24/2023 by Phoenix48

Authentic masculinity closely tracks maturity and goes against the grain. It has traditionally been taught by men who have successfully made the transition.

Assertiveness Energy: Communicate What You Want

11/02/202307/10/2023 by Phoenix48

Assertiveness is a communication style characterized by the ability to express thoughts, feelings, needs and beliefs directly in a clear and appropriate manner.

Unraveling the Potential and Amazing Power of Courage

11/27/202305/15/2023 by Phoenix48

Does courage really mean the absence of fear or someone who is practiced at identifying fear as an additional obstacle and setting it aside?

How SDR Got Started

One day we realize that no one is coming. Our therapist isn’t coming. Our doctor isn’t coming. Our parents aren’t coming. Our friends and co-workers aren’t coming. Our sponsor isn’t coming. No one is coming to save us because no one can – ultimately we are on our own. This realization is a pivotal moment – it’s when we realize there is no alternative other than to take full responsibility not only for our recovery but for our lives. But how?

This website is a culmination of decades of effort to develop an effective way to move forward. One key to understanding is the realization that we are not so different – we struggle with the same difficulties and hang-ups as everyone else. Our problems are not just substances – we are stalled at a stunted level of awareness and maturity. The tentacles reach everywhere. Thus began the project of uncovering everything.